if you truly want to be prepared, playing backyard soldier isn't going to do anything for you.
Take a survival course, get certified in at least first aid. Be able to communicate with the outside world. (Don't count on cell phones.)
I won't go into my plans, but put it this way... Your plans need to be secret, your inventory secure and hidden, your personnel trained and ready.
I'm to the point that my coworkers don't even really know where exactly I live... That's deliberate.
But I will lay this tidbit upon you. If you get into building shelters and installing gen sets and mass water storage, NBC Scrubbers, learn to do it yourself. Contractors remember where unique things are. There are plenty of books from storing fuel, wheat, and other commodities long term, and how to do it properly.
Your food stores should be 5-6 months of normal living. If things are not livable by then, well.... I think you get the point.