Both me and my wife working and my daughter going to Daycare has been real bad for my 3 year old - 4 next month. She can read and write her entire alphabet, she can count to 30, She knows all her shapes - Including a Parallelogram, she knows all of her colors - Even Violet and Mauve. She can write her own name and is working on Mummy & Daddys names now. She has her own computer and knows how to type simple words - Dog, Cat etc. Plus her name, she can surf NickJnr.com and play all the games and watch all the videos on her own.

Yes - we have a bunch of nice things, TV, Computers, Cars etc. Live in our own house - because we worked for it and wanted to live well by both working. Our daughter doesn't want for clothes or shoes or food, she has nice things.

On the flip side. My wifes cousin is a stay at home mum, if she could be considered a mum. She ignores the kids as much as possible because they driver her crazy spending every waking minute with them. She sleeps in bed until noon while the kids get up and do their own thing, she rents an apartment because they can't afford a house, near the end of every month when they run out of money they scrounge from family and spend a bunch of time at my wifes Grandmothers house, who feeds them and practically buys all of the clothes and toys for the kids. Her 5 year old doesn't even know basic colors or how to count to 10, he starts Kindergarten this year and will likely struggle to graduate in his first year.

I know what situation I'd prefer to raise my daughter in.