I think the military policy is there because straight folks don't really want gays around them. Since fielding an army of gay folks would be rather difficult, considering most of the population is straight, the policies lean toward the ideals of straight folks. Personally, I don't give a rats ass. I'm in the infantry - we have more ass grabbing, smacking, pinching, "cop a feel", and ball smacking than you'd find in most gay night clubs. It's the nature of the business - like a family full of boys - just a really disfunctional one. It's nothing unusual to see someone walking around with their penis hanging out - either by choice or by accident - BDU crotches tear easily. We show each other our scrotums on a routine basis. If seeing someone else's pecker in close proximity to your face is really unnerving, combat arms is not for you. It gets worse in the war zone. If someone at home witnessed our behavior, they'd swear we have a company full of gay guys. Gays in the military - who cares? Hell, the REMFs are fags (in the George Carlin sense of the word) anyway.