PNUT.... Don't be bothered by idiots who say shit like that. If they are relatives, when you catch them alone just say it bothers you and they will stop.
Did you ever notice it is only the fat ass baby making machines that say shit like this? Comments like this always come from women who you would never stick your dick into even if you were paid to do so. Their idiot husbands always smile and nod in agreement. (These husbands deserve a beating for becoming feminized).
You never hear comments like this from your really hot female relatives and friends. Also you never hear these comments from the non-feminized male relatives and friends. Only the fat ignorant idiots.
Let it roll off your back .... and you just have to realize where it's coming from.
Good luck to you and your wife....