lincolnnellie, thanks for the fender info, the guy in ARK checked the fender and called back and said there were some scratches on it (like I cared too much). I found a junked 02 Xterra in Blue Island, IL(ABC Auto Parts), and lucky enough, it was Black. $100.
For $150 I can get a new mirror installed and $95 for the fender install so the damage is easier to swallow.
As the day went by, did it get muddier? You guys should know the place like the back of your hand now since you were there for over 6 hours.