He does sound like a jerk. There are some officers that other officers hate. It probably not the badge he's wearing, its just his personality.

Please dont pull the "I pay your salary" bit. That will go down hill quickly. He has a boss but you arent it any more than a single individual is President Bush's boss; whose salary we all pay. Depending on where he works and where you live, you may not "pay his salary".

Your Wifes friend would have the most pull with him without it getting ugly. Have her mention your dissatisfaction.

Or, maybe you have nails in your grass and he gets one more flat than he has spare tires. Who you gonna call? However that does go against my sig.