Well, after 15 years of marraige and 2 kids, I'm single again. Finished moving all my stuff over the weekend, me and my son are now in a 2 bedroom condo. I already miss my garage.

I'm sure glad 07 is over. Start the year by having the doctor tell me I'm borderline type 2 diabetic and my cholestorol and blood pressure are way too high, if I don't make some serious changes, I'm gonna have major problems. I totally change my lifestyle and eating habits, quit drinking and end up losing around 50 lbs. My wife goes on the same diet and lifestyle change to support me and ends up losing around 40 lbs. She then decides that being married to me isn't what she wants anymore and thinks of me as a "friend" only, no other attraction. I tell you, I didn't see that coming, I thought that getting my health back on track would have made things better. I couldn't live like that anymore, so end of last year I found a place and moved out over new years. I feel real bad for my son, he's 13 and seems to be handling things well but still.....

Anyways, I'm just trying to stay positive, all things happen for a reason, here's hoping 08 turns out to be a real good year....

Good luck, sorry to hear you've had a rough time of it lately, keep that chin up.

Hang in there and keep up the lifestyle changes you will come out on top in the long run.

Take up triathlon there are always a lot of fit hot chicks running around half nekked.

Why else do you think I do this stuff?

That's a tough deal. Sorry to hear it's going on.

You didn't ask for advice but I'll offer some anyway. There's a saying..."Regret for the past is a waste of the spirit." It's true, and while I can tell you from experience it's a lot easier to say it than to live it, it's something to hang your hat on. All we have is this moment and the future, so make the most of it and try to be happy that she didn't waste one more moment of your life if her heart wasn't in it.

You're off to a good start, keep it rolling and use this opportunity to deepen the ties between you and your son. His way of handling this kind of experience will largely come from how you do it now, so stay positive and balanced and show him how a man acts when the chips are down.

Good luck to you and your boy.

I remember you talking about this a while back in the weight loss thread. I said then, and I'll say it again.

That's fucked up.

But you'll be better off in the long run. I know it's hard, but try to keep it civil, it's best for the kid in the long run.

Here's to you finding someone that will appreciate you and how hard you've busted your ass to better yourself!

Dude, sorry to hear about your situation. That really sucks. Didn't either of you want to try to work on revitalizing/improving your marriage?

Hey man. Feel your pain. My 7.5 year marraige was divorced/finalized august 8th, 2007.

good luck

I wish you the best.

I can say I know what it's like to have parents go through a divorce. I was the exact same age as your son when my parents got divorced.

My circumstances were a lot different, but please feel free to PM me if you want a kids take of the whole situation.

Congrats on the lifestyle changes though, it's great to know that you'll be around for the kids a lot longer now.

I know it hurts and I'm sorry your having to go through this but, if she'd leave like this she'd have left anyway. Just made it happen sooner.

Good luck, stay positive. Things get better.

Thanks for the kind words, they are appreciated

Life goes on.....

It's gonna be a good year

Very sad to hear, man. I've only been married for 6 1/2 years, and I can't imagine life without her. Losing her is one of my biggest fears. I can't imagine the pain of divorce. God bless you, friend.

I got a divorce in December of 2006 after 7.5 years of marriage.

Not easy, but I'm better off now because of it. You will be too, eventually.

Dont fear losing ANYONE. Thats like waiting for the other shoe to drop. Enjoy life, enjoy her and be greatful. If live deals you a turn all you can do is roll with it.

2nd wives are a lot better anyways.

Take it from me. The first marriage is like a mulligan.

I never knew you were Morman...



Shoot. I'm at the point I just want a chick that'll do things the wife never did. You know, like cook and clean...

Everything happens for a reason...

Hang in there man. Like a couple others said, it will get better.

It's been a year since my wife and I separated. First few months were rough.

My two cents on getting through the whole ordeal:

-be civil towards each other.
-try your best to settle the divorce specifics without lawyers and then get one once you agree on everything and hammer out an agreement. If not, be prepared for a butt load of money out the window in fees. I could have new truck with the amount spent so far. (I'm assuming you're not divorced yet)
-don't be afraid of getting some outside help. $20 to $70 a visit is worth it to help get your head back on straight.
-Watch your finances. Never know what can happen (like a drained joint bank account )

Agreed

Dude I'm sorry to hear that; a couple of months ago, after 21 years of marriage, my husband said he didn't want to be married anymore; I'm on my own as well... it's different I have to say, but I'm getting by...At least I have my Xterra My best goes out to you and your son. Hang in there!

Hey, on a side note, there's a newly divorced woman here with a Suicidal Tendencies sig line..

although my divorce isn't final yet, that's still pretty funny all seriousness aside I could really use a Pepsi,,

Look at it this way. The first time was just practice.
I practiced for 10 years, now ten into second round. Much better!