2¼" exhaust won't hurt anything. When guys talk about 'losing' torque, what they mostly mean is that it's not in the same spot as you might normally notice it.
I don't see 2¼" mandrel bent tubing actually moving your torque to another rpm spot.
2½" mandrel bent tubing should have moved it up slightly (maybe 300-500rpm above stock), with 3" mandrel bent tubing moving it way up, probably over 1500-2000rpm over stock.
4 cylinder engines are really subjective to tubing diameters, with 6 bangers (V6 vs.I6) being slightly less picky.
If you can get 2¼" exhaust, insure it's mandrel bent, all the way. If not, then get 2½" tubing, as it'll probably be necked down further than the 2¼" in the bends.
As far as the muffler goes, that can be a give or take as well. Backpressure really helps or hinders the placement of torque.
Don't go with anything that is really flow through (cherry bombs, glass packs, etc.) or you'll just move the torque out of the useably area as well. Insure that the muffler has the same diameter inlet and outlet as the tubing that your using (can be bigger, but only about a ¼" bigger is acceptable) due to being part of the flow characteristics of the exhaust. It's not just for sound.