Wow, gotta watch that damn slush. Ian's advice is solid and has served me well in questionable conditions. This time of year, I pretty much keep my hubs engaged (locked) 95% of the time (unless roads are perfect). I shift in/out as the need arises.
Two big rules to follow when changing lanes in slush:
1. 4H is KEY (she found that out)
2. Slow WAY down, change lanes, speed back up.
3. Optional rule: get better tires.
Glad to hear the wife and dog are OK.
-dp