yes i have tried searching and have found some really good info on the problem, but my question still isnt answered.

I installed a calmini 3" suspension lift last night on my x. I was driving home from the garage(1 Mile) at a top speed of about 30mph. almost made it home when i hit a tiny bump or pot hole or something. at that time the front right suspension gave way or something and came down to rest of the tire.

I know it has to do with my t-bar on the right side. i can loosen, with my fingers the rear anchor bolt, but the actual anchor wont come down when i loosen it, only the bolt. also a lot of slines are now showing where it is going into the rear anchor. i guess i'll have to take the front bracket off and remove the bar comepletely and see if there is any damage? any other ideas? any idea what could have cuased this.

I dont have the lift but I know that if the splines on the T-bars are not firmly inserted they will strip and fail. Did you check this?

yes. i even double checked the t bars when i installed them. the splines were firmly and fully inserted. but now the back ones are defintily not.

Basically something was installed incorrectly.
Very hard to diagnose over the internet.

The rear ancor will not come down with the bolt if the truck isn't jacked up and the wheel jacked up so it's not at full extension.