I remember from a much earlier problem I had, someone telling me that the pathfinders had permanantly locked hubs in some model years. I think it was Brent (Offroad X) on the Xterrafirma board. Anyway, check to see if her front hubs are the autolocker type (similar to yours) or look different (smaller). If they are the fully locked ones, then it is likely she didn't have the TC lever engaged all the way. If they are the autolockers, I am still inclined to believe it is the TC lever not fully engaged too, but the type of hubs could rule out other possibilities. Usually driving on dry pavement in 4wd will make it difficult to get it out of 4wd due to binding. Obviously there are some wear/breakage concerns, but limited amounts shouldn't damage it that quickly. Either way, I would try what Distant Planet did and see if it works.
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