A lot depends on how much of road you want...generally, the deeper and more aggressive the lugs/tread pattern is, the noisier...but, the use of computer aided tread design has allowed some noise cancellation technology to be worked into the newer patterns, reducing the tread noise, etc.

Also - Off road in rocky terrain, vs mud to the hubs, vs mud to the frame, vs sand, and on road on the highway, or in tight switch backs, or gravel, or packed snow, or fresh powder snow, or ice, etc...are all different off/on road scenarios, and can lead to one tire being better in one terrain, and worse in others...and no one tire does all of them perfectly.

You'd need to be more specific for any one to guess what the right choice would be.

As for cupping of the tread, that's typically alignment, or the shocks, more so than the tires at least.

Geolander ATs are not associated with your reported problems, other than maybe being louder than a highway biased tire, etc....so I'd take another look at your alignment and suspension before ruining another set of tires.